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No Dams!

Hi darling.  I have been inspired to put pen to paper once again (or it’s electronic equivalent ) in an effort to make more obvious things that I believe and that I feel can also be of benefit to you.  

The reason that I think it is hard, frustrating, or whatever arises, when we get together with our families is because we live in patterns from our childhoods that we know are not loving so we never give up trying to get the love right.  

Unfortunately we don’t really have a plan about how we’re going to do that so we revert back to the same behaviours with the same results.  They get worse over time because the universe is also involved in the process and more and more intense situations will often yield a movement of some kind.  Not the best way to go about it but it is the usual way.  

Having expectations of someone else and even ourselves is also adding to the unlovingness of the situation but we all do that as well. 

Just so you know, I firmly believe it’s best dealt with by going with the emotion and express it until it’s conclusion and ultimately release it. You will travel often from rage or anger to grief and/or fear.  Direct it outwards but not at anyone… even if the cause of your angst is sitting right in front of you. (Of course you can mention the issue….  “you know mum,  you have never loved me “, etc. )

I have these things as well with my parents and siblings. Issue after issue keeps rearing it’s ugly head and I push it aside believing in my “soul” – otherwise I’d do it differently – that discussing it is only bringing up things that are better left buried.  The universe (to me that’s God) doesn’t think so, that’s why the same issues remain in my experience. 

Our dreams and sometimes sleepstate experiences can help us realise the issues that we are trying to bury. The problem is we can’t ever really bury them. Only kick a bit of dirt on them which tends to make them more agrivated the next time they come up. Sure,  we get better at our facade to hide them but that’s just the face of it…  not the guts. They will spew out or make this physical vessel not so well. 

You can try to keep a dream journal. (I  keep telling myself to do that as well.)

Do you see how our patterns can hold us back from our progression?

I see you working on your progression and I think you are very brave.  The problem ones are the early early childhood experiences and inherited emotions that you don’t have a developed memory of because of your age when they occurred and the fact that some may not be yours.  You’ve just built on them and you can’t even understand why or where they’ve come from. That’s why you can’t do this intellectually, it has to be emotionally. 

Listen to the messages from people around you…  There are clues everywhere.  If you think it’s a loving message… and I’m not talking about an addictive false-praising, manipulative or co-dependant message… then think more on it.  I also pray to God for guidance and ask my spirit friends and guides for assistance…  but that’s me. 

A loving message might be “you need to look after yourself “. A manipulative/co-dependent message might be “don’t listen to them,  you deserve a drink. ”

The first one seems like judgement, and the second one seems caring.  However, the first is simply a fact and the second doesn’t really help at all even though it would appear to be supportive. 

Anyway I’ll finish off there and know that I  appreciate your frankness and care that you show.  I see your humility shining through and feel that humility will be the thing that keeps you open to learning more and progressing in the most positive way. 

It pains me to know that our lives can impact yours greatly but I can only reiterate my sentiments again that no good can be achieved from upsetting yourself with things outside of your “control” (if I can use that word!) – outside of yourself. That doesn’t mean to push down the emotions when they come up but ask why they have come up at this time, in this situation.  Relate it back or at least just feel through it. Magic will happen. 

Life is ebbing and flowing as it always will and pushing against it is useless my dear. This is where being in situations in families can help to show where the blockages are to your flow. 

All my love that I am capable of today I send to you.  Xxx 

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Congrats! Nice job.

Congratulations on the discovery of your talent. Working with others in an inspired way towards a harmonious universe.

More work is yet to be done on connecting to emotions in the most thorough way. Finding within yourself the necessary allowance will greatly benefit your soul progress. ‘Little by little’ is the current allowance. ‘To the ends of the earth!’ is the desired position.

Many are developing along these lines and many more will join. You can look forward to easier, and more, opportunities to engage passions and ideas, and experience more acceptance about that which you speak.

Compassion for what is talked about as ‘facades’ is a way to assist those in such a state – as all are to various degrees; and a prayer to God can greatly assist the general demeanor around that area. Prayer for God’s Love

Life is not meant to be such a chore as is being experienced by so many on earth. Life as a human being should be such as a child. Joyful, playful, inquisitive and astonishing. The existence many are experiencing is a more hellish lifestyle. Impure, false and misleading. Unfriendly to most  – even to the person themselves.

Love for your soulmate; the other half of your soul, is a worthwhile pursuit and, in fact, a necessary desire for you to have in the larger picture of ‘all that is’.

God is adoring of all of her children and does not possess any form of sadness, that you may presume is felt, in relation to your activities. She knows that hitting the mark of love is a learning curve and is why we’re here. We’re here to experience with others all levels of love.

When the masks are lifted; everyone shows their cards, all is revealed and we will be astounded by what is uncovered in the grand unveiling of who you really are.

Nothing can be as inspiring as the truth of you, and the mountains you can climb in your endeavours as the greatest of God’s creations.

In love and with much rejoicing for your arrival to the path of least resistance and beyond.

LIFE

Life’s an experience
I’m sure that you know
But how do we continue to grow?

By living a life
So live it right now
Not tomorrow or Wednesday
Right now that is how

How to be free from the concerns that we show?
They really really really must go

They ground us and hold us
From greater pursuits
They even can have us all dressed up in suits!

Suits to suit others
Not ours at all
When will we ever remember the call

The call to our greatness
That’s really all

This time like no-other
Can help you relate
To having a go at the things that can’t date

Like laughing and crying
And smiling too
These are worthwhile things to pursue

Take a look at a child
And then you will know
This is the very thing we should sow

Sow in some fun
Some happiness and love
Mix it all in
And don’t use a glove!

Get down and get dirty
From this day till the next
Then maybe we won’t be so perplexed

“Life” by Gail Single

Ahhh…..Facade. Sadly, we must part.

[00:12:49.06] A.J.: ……we lie to ourselves; we lie to others; we present a lie. Quite frequently you’re feeling, inside, one thing but you say another thing to a person. Frequently, that happens……. Somebody comes up and asks you ‘are you doing this or are you doing that?’ You assess whether you might get attacked; or you might get abused; or you might get whatever saying what you really want to say, and so you don’t say it. Right? It’s presenting a lie to others. The facade justifies lies constantly…..It’s willing to kill for itself. You’re harming people every single moment of the day, even, for the protection of this facade. Because the terror and the pain, the false belief that you can’t cope with both of those things, just causes you to feel that lieing is justified.

Excerpt from “Developing my loving self” seminar

IN THE SHADOWS

In the shadows of my life
I see wisdom shining through
Hidden deep inside me
Just like there is in you

This wisdom can remind me
Of all the things that I am
All the things that excite me
All the things that I can

I can decide my future
I can love and appreciate
I can deeply and completely
Enjoy everything that’s great

Like breathing and relaxing
In my comfy bed at night
Like revelling in my playground
The streets paved with life
Like having love surround me
My friends and family
Like everything I ask for
Coming surely as can be

I work and I worry
I wonder and I think
I exercise my free will
And sometimes I forget to blink

Blinking for a moment
Is what brings me clarity
Making everything So clear
It seems like charity

In the shadow of my life
Lurks the answers that are best
If I listen and be still
I’ll get the blueprint to my quest

‘In the Shadows’ by Gail Single