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Love, cuppa and Lentil Pie

Darling, I thank you for your continued tutelage as you give me the opportunity to grow in my spirit through conversation and experimentation with thoughts, values and my responses, energetically, to those. We shared a lot of that yesterday afternoon in one of our favourite spots.

When we began I was trepidatious – not wanting to enter the arena of perceived judgement and vulnerability. We’ve been there way too many times and I had decided that I was out – I needed to find a new direction where I could grow my ideas and values without offending loved ones or disappointing myself with the suppression of my spirit; and to allow continued, barely disguised, facades to stay in place – enabling our unit to continue without real challenge and thereby without growth.

I have to say that I am a pleaser; an organiser; someone who values family above all other – or I was. I will now be the pleased; I will organise according to God’s Laws; and family now are those who choose to be in alignment with those values. I am prepared to let-go my stranglehold on all that I once found sacred.

To be honestly honest, a lot of my continued involvement came from a place of not getting it right – not leading and loving the way I know, in my heart of hearts, it should have been. I’m still not there, but I can’t get there from a stuck place and surrounding myself with the same deterrents that I have always allowed to invade my unconscious self. Soothing and attempting to control my fate.

It’s all in God’s hands and the more I interfere, the longer it will take. It’s not making me happy and the evidence that it is not serving the purpose I have been working towards is obvious.

Our conversation took us to many places and I have realised that I am prepared to let go of a lot of my opinions – especially as they pertain to others, which, in the end, do not mean a lot for my life – they’re just opinions and opinions change.

I am more interested in working towards developing my resonance with knowledge – tapping into the steady flow of consciousness generously provided by God to all of his children. The conversations can happen still, but, in so much as, they will be learning tools to indicate to me areas that I need to work on for the benefit of my soul and how it reflects on all other things in God’s Universe.

I don’t believe that this information will please you greatly, and I will be, no doubt, thought of as someone going through a crisis – and you would be right. A crisis of the soul. I know that this determination will ultimately lead to much better results than the previous, not working at all, one did.

I look forward to sharing one of those Lentil Curry Pies with you very soon.

All my love. Mum.

Let God In

In the darkest of our hours
In the ever changing light
Let God’s Love embrace you
Let His guidance be your sight

Among all the struggling souls
On this world and the next
Let God’s Grace restore you
From all things hexed

There is within our being
A light that shines forlorn
Waiting for the wisdom within us
To be nurtured and reborn

In every ounce of trouble
There’s a clue to who we are
Leading onto greatness
That’s so near and yet so far

I invite the ever present
I invite the yet unclear
I invite the many masters
To stay close and to be near

Let’s kick this evolution
That we all can feel is naught
Not conducive to the outcome
For which we have been taught

It’s just a fleeting moment
It’s coming to that place
Where we can all delight
In all things that we face

Face off bad emotions
Kick them firmly out the door
Don’t let them keep us bounded
To things we want no more

Let us prepare the welcome;
Realise our sin;
Put a smile upon our dial;
And Let God In!

https://gailsingle.wordpress.com/2017/01/12/let-god-in/

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Healing family

This week I have been confronted with some of the demons from the past.

My 25 year old daughter ‘reminded’ me – ‘reminded’ because I had blocked it, or not been in a place to hear it correctly at that time, about being interfered with by one of her siblings when she was a child. She rightly believes that this has played a major role in her life to date. She said that I told her, at the time, that children explore their bodies in such ways when they are growing up – which I do believe, but that doesn’t stop us making it a shameful experience.

It left me feeling that I had not done enough to protect her, being a working mother of five – four boys and one daughter. I have felt that for a long time. She chose to distance herself from me at a very young age; and, while usually we have a civil relationship, it is obviously one of facade. She is prone to rage and sadness at the slightest glitch in support of her.

So, the questions remain: Am I a bad mother? How do I go about healing – the relationship and my daughters’ self-esteem? Is it my job now that she is grown?

The answers are: All mothers have their own injuries that make them behave and parent in a less than ‘good parent’ way. We are too focused on our own needs rather than putting our energies into the people who depend on them for their nurturing.

I can go about repairing our relationship, and consequently show her the way to healing, by my example; and then by the results she can see and feel.

Because I believe that this earth existence is just the start of our soul’s journey, we have an eternity to continue to grow and heal with a firm desire to live in love. Face what needs to be faced and allow what comes to indicate to us what we need to repair or embrace. Our lives will give us that gift if we allow and accept.

If I had not denied my own damage then there would not have been that imprint left on her, and she would not now be confused and frightened by where her life is taking her; she would not be going about damaging herself and others in her approaches to relationship; and would be more gentle and loving, strong, secure and encouraged by her existence. So, yes, it is my job to ensure that I can do all that I can to assist, not only her, but myself, to go through the process of forgiving and repenting all things that have been buzzing around me for the entirety of my existence.

Not only do I owe it to her, I also owe it to my son who’s behaviour as a young age would have left him ashamed and confused. I believe that it has left him arrogant in an attempt to hide the less powerful emotions in the belief that this is what he needs to do to have the life he thinks he wants – that society tells him he deserves.

Of course we deserve a wonderful life but we need to do the work to make it so. And we are told by society that having whatever we want, and doing whatever it takes to get it is the only way to go – no matter the effects on other people around us – even our children.

You can see how this sort of selfish, arrogant behaviour will continually perpetuate this same damage into generations to come – causing crushing effects on body, mind and soul.

The time is now to do the work and strive towards an existence that is hugely beneficial to, not only our loved ones, but to the world as a whole.

Go with God. I have for some time now and have benefited greatly.

FORGIVE

Forgive from your heart
Let It heal your life
Nothing can hold you
Like a fair bit of strife

The hardest to get through
Are the things that We do
Known only by us
Yet they can still puss

They fester and grow
And live on all the while
With each new day.
It gets harder to smile

Your greatness is here now
Lets show them all how
When love is involved
Much can be solved

The love that you are
Lays buried deep inside
Just waiting for the hate to subside

Loved ones cannot help you
Only you can mend
All the hurt and despair that you still defend

Your spirit is calling
For you to be free
Forgiveness is golden
And I’m sure you’ll agree
There is nothing nicer
That you’d like to be

So forgive and move on now
And then you will see
All the good things that life brings
Known to more than just me


For Jeffrey

I met Jeffrey for a short time recently when we attended Graham’s 50th birthday celebration.

I found him to be a very gentle soul but I could detect the trouble that lay within, as it does with the majority of us in one form or another.  Sometimes when we’re not being authentic to the soul God created, we can get lost to the darker thoughts that we catch when we least expect them.

I urge you to hold onto the belief that Jeffrey isn’t lost to you or us.

He still exists in another form and dimension that we can’t quite understand or appreciate.

We get trapped in the teachings from this planet which can lead to what we’re facing in Jeffrey’s current situation.

It is my firm belief that Jeffrey will be allowed to rest and convalesce for a time before he will need to face his demons once again and continue to attempt to reach higher limits of appreciation and acceptance of self and others.

We can help him with the earnest and loving belief that everyone can, and will, heal the damage we’ve denied with our desires to do so for ourselves – the cord that connects us cannot be broken. It’s just a matter of how long we defend all of our hurt and make it a part of us instead of embracing it’s ability to indicate our ‘sins’ – meaning simply “missing the mark”, in this context “missing the mark of love” (God’s love,  not human love) and choose to acknowledge and release.

It’s a powerful gift we can give to, not only our nearest and dearest, and ourselves, but in fact, the entire universe.

I am comforted in my knowledge that when we let God in and walk the narrow path he has created for us all things can rapidly progress to a state beyond Nirvana – something most think of as the ultimate location.

This is a poem that I created with the friends that surround me and assist me to weather the storms in my own life.  I’d like to share it in the hope that all can find solace in the words and in the hope that the woes that caused Jeffrey to such desperation will never again darken the doors of those we love or anyone that exists today on this earth.

LET GOD IN

In the darkest of our hours
In the ever changing light
Let God’s Love embrace you
Let His guidance be your sight

Among all the struggling souls
On this world and the next
Let God’s Grace restore you
From all things hexed

There is within our being
A light that shines forlorn
Waiting for the wisdom within us
To be nurtured and reborn

In every ounce of trouble
There’s a clue to who we are
Leading onto greatness
That’s so near and yet so far

I invite the ever present
I invite the yet unclear
I invite the many masters
To stay close and to be near

Let’s kick this evolution
That we all can feel is naught
Not conducive to the outcome
For which we have been taught

It’s just a fleeting moment
It’s coming to that place
Where we can all delight
In all things that we face

Face off bad emotions
Kick them firmly out the door
Don’t let them keep us bounded
To things we want no more

Let us prepare the welcome;
Realise our sin;
Put a smile upon our dial;
And Let God In!

No Dams!

Hi darling.  I have been inspired to put pen to paper once again (or it’s electronic equivalent ) in an effort to make more obvious things that I believe and that I feel can also be of benefit to you.  

The reason that I think it is hard, frustrating, or whatever arises, when we get together with our families is because we live in patterns from our childhoods that we know are not loving so we never give up trying to get the love right.  

Unfortunately we don’t really have a plan about how we’re going to do that so we revert back to the same behaviours with the same results.  They get worse over time because the universe is also involved in the process and more and more intense situations will often yield a movement of some kind.  Not the best way to go about it but it is the usual way.  

Having expectations of someone else and even ourselves is also adding to the unlovingness of the situation but we all do that as well. 

Just so you know, I firmly believe it’s best dealt with by going with the emotion and express it until it’s conclusion and ultimately release it. You will travel often from rage or anger to grief and/or fear.  Direct it outwards but not at anyone… even if the cause of your angst is sitting right in front of you. (Of course you can mention the issue….  “you know mum,  you have never loved me “, etc. )

I have these things as well with my parents and siblings. Issue after issue keeps rearing it’s ugly head and I push it aside believing in my “soul” – otherwise I’d do it differently – that discussing it is only bringing up things that are better left buried.  The universe (to me that’s God) doesn’t think so, that’s why the same issues remain in my experience. 

Our dreams and sometimes sleepstate experiences can help us realise the issues that we are trying to bury. The problem is we can’t ever really bury them. Only kick a bit of dirt on them which tends to make them more agrivated the next time they come up. Sure,  we get better at our facade to hide them but that’s just the face of it…  not the guts. They will spew out or make this physical vessel not so well. 

You can try to keep a dream journal. (I  keep telling myself to do that as well.)

Do you see how our patterns can hold us back from our progression?

I see you working on your progression and I think you are very brave.  The problem ones are the early early childhood experiences and inherited emotions that you don’t have a developed memory of because of your age when they occurred and the fact that some may not be yours.  You’ve just built on them and you can’t even understand why or where they’ve come from. That’s why you can’t do this intellectually, it has to be emotionally. 

Listen to the messages from people around you…  There are clues everywhere.  If you think it’s a loving message… and I’m not talking about an addictive false-praising, manipulative or co-dependant message… then think more on it.  I also pray to God for guidance and ask my spirit friends and guides for assistance…  but that’s me. 

A loving message might be “you need to look after yourself “. A manipulative/co-dependent message might be “don’t listen to them,  you deserve a drink. ”

The first one seems like judgement, and the second one seems caring.  However, the first is simply a fact and the second doesn’t really help at all even though it would appear to be supportive. 

Anyway I’ll finish off there and know that I  appreciate your frankness and care that you show.  I see your humility shining through and feel that humility will be the thing that keeps you open to learning more and progressing in the most positive way. 

It pains me to know that our lives can impact yours greatly but I can only reiterate my sentiments again that no good can be achieved from upsetting yourself with things outside of your “control” (if I can use that word!) – outside of yourself. That doesn’t mean to push down the emotions when they come up but ask why they have come up at this time, in this situation.  Relate it back or at least just feel through it. Magic will happen. 

Life is ebbing and flowing as it always will and pushing against it is useless my dear. This is where being in situations in families can help to show where the blockages are to your flow. 

All my love that I am capable of today I send to you.  Xxx 

Letter to Kate

Hello my darling.  I just wanted to let you know what an inspiration you are to me and how you never cease to challenge and delight me with your spirit.  You have again helped me to see things in a new and better light; and have helped to uplift my soul to a new level.

Not wishing to trigger you, but, my prayers were answers over the last week as I have been asking to be shown ways that I can help my children move through the many situations and troubling emotions they feel.

I just wasn’t prepared for the answer. The answer never comes in a pretty package, wrapped in the finest ribbon as we would like, because the issues come from a place of, I’m going to say, ‘sin’ – sin meaning ‘missing the mark’ in the pure sense of the word. ‘Missing the mark of love’ in this context.

So, if you take your example of a tree falling in the forest.  I’m sure you will agree it IS felt throughout the universe with or without any physical knowledge of the event. That is how I see how I am able to assist in the area of helping you guys navigate through life.

I can stand in front of the tree and try to stop it falling; I can develop an elaborate system of supporting the tree; I can deny that the tree is in danger of falling, or has fallen; I can watch as the tree slowly but surely is destroyed by circumstances surrounding it; or I can do the only real thing that will assist the tree in maintaining it’s beautiful existence in the long term. I can look at me and see how I am contributing to it’s demise. Then I can take the appropriate measures to do all that I can to correct those things that are in error in me. In that way I will be able to be a part of the solution to its survival and growth in the most effective way.

You have shown me that we are all connected and there is not just one person required to save the tree. I had thought that I could push on and in the end save ‘our’ world. No, we need to help each other to reach that place where we can feel sure that we are a part of something bigger and that we are being supported, admired and applauded. The rest is automatic.

You are one of my favourite trees, and I will do everything that I can to assist you and your desires.

So thank you for being the wonderful person that you are as we share in love together.

Your, growing in humility, mother.

IN THE SHADOWS

In the shadows of my life
I see wisdom shining through
Hidden deep inside me
Just like there is in you

This wisdom can remind me
Of all the things that I am
All the things that excite me
All the things that I can

I can decide my future
I can love and appreciate
I can deeply and completely
Enjoy everything that’s great

Like breathing and relaxing
In my comfy bed at night
Like revelling in my playground
The streets paved with life
Like having love surround me
My friends and family
Like everything I ask for
Coming surely as can be

I work and I worry
I wonder and I think
I exercise my free will
And sometimes I forget to blink

Blinking for a moment
Is what brings me clarity
Making everything SO clear
It seems like charity

In the shadow of my life
Lurks the answers that are best
If I listen and be still
I’ll get the blueprint to my quest

“In the Shadows” with Gail Single