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Marriage Re-assessment

Some take-aways I put together from a recent talk by Pastor James MacDonald. No life partner? All the better to learn these lessons now.

Marriage reassessment

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No Dams!

Hi darling.  I have been inspired to put pen to paper once again (or it’s electronic equivalent ) in an effort to make more obvious things that I believe and that I feel can also be of benefit to you.  

The reason that I think it is hard, frustrating, or whatever arises, when we get together with our families is because we live in patterns from our childhoods that we know are not loving so we never give up trying to get the love right.  

Unfortunately we don’t really have a plan about how we’re going to do that so we revert back to the same behaviours with the same results.  They get worse over time because the universe is also involved in the process and more and more intense situations will often yield a movement of some kind.  Not the best way to go about it but it is the usual way.  

Having expectations of someone else and even ourselves is also adding to the unlovingness of the situation but we all do that as well. 

Just so you know, I firmly believe it’s best dealt with by going with the emotion and express it until it’s conclusion and ultimately release it. You will travel often from rage or anger to grief and/or fear.  Direct it outwards but not at anyone… even if the cause of your angst is sitting right in front of you. (Of course you can mention the issue….  “you know mum,  you have never loved me “, etc. )

I have these things as well with my parents and siblings. Issue after issue keeps rearing it’s ugly head and I push it aside believing in my “soul” – otherwise I’d do it differently – that discussing it is only bringing up things that are better left buried.  The universe (to me that’s God) doesn’t think so, that’s why the same issues remain in my experience. 

Our dreams and sometimes sleepstate experiences can help us realise the issues that we are trying to bury. The problem is we can’t ever really bury them. Only kick a bit of dirt on them which tends to make them more agrivated the next time they come up. Sure,  we get better at our facade to hide them but that’s just the face of it…  not the guts. They will spew out or make this physical vessel not so well. 

You can try to keep a dream journal. (I  keep telling myself to do that as well.)

Do you see how our patterns can hold us back from our progression?

I see you working on your progression and I think you are very brave.  The problem ones are the early early childhood experiences and inherited emotions that you don’t have a developed memory of because of your age when they occurred and the fact that some may not be yours.  You’ve just built on them and you can’t even understand why or where they’ve come from. That’s why you can’t do this intellectually, it has to be emotionally. 

Listen to the messages from people around you…  There are clues everywhere.  If you think it’s a loving message… and I’m not talking about an addictive false-praising, manipulative or co-dependant message… then think more on it.  I also pray to God for guidance and ask my spirit friends and guides for assistance…  but that’s me. 

A loving message might be “you need to look after yourself “. A manipulative/co-dependent message might be “don’t listen to them,  you deserve a drink. ”

The first one seems like judgement, and the second one seems caring.  However, the first is simply a fact and the second doesn’t really help at all even though it would appear to be supportive. 

Anyway I’ll finish off there and know that I  appreciate your frankness and care that you show.  I see your humility shining through and feel that humility will be the thing that keeps you open to learning more and progressing in the most positive way. 

It pains me to know that our lives can impact yours greatly but I can only reiterate my sentiments again that no good can be achieved from upsetting yourself with things outside of your “control” (if I can use that word!) – outside of yourself. That doesn’t mean to push down the emotions when they come up but ask why they have come up at this time, in this situation.  Relate it back or at least just feel through it. Magic will happen. 

Life is ebbing and flowing as it always will and pushing against it is useless my dear. This is where being in situations in families can help to show where the blockages are to your flow. 

All my love that I am capable of today I send to you.  Xxx 

Letter to Kate

Hello my darling.  I just wanted to let you know what an inspiration you are to me and how you never cease to challenge and delight me with your spirit.  You have again helped me to see things in a new and better light; and have helped to uplift my soul to a new level.

Not wishing to trigger you, but, my prayers were answers over the last week as I have been asking to be shown ways that I can help my children move through the many situations and troubling emotions they feel.

I just wasn’t prepared for the answer. The answer never comes in a pretty package, wrapped in the finest ribbon as we would like, because the issues come from a place of, I’m going to say, ‘sin’ – sin meaning ‘missing the mark’ in the pure sense of the word. ‘Missing the mark of love’ in this context.

So, if you take your example of a tree falling in the forest.  I’m sure you will agree it IS felt throughout the universe with or without any physical knowledge of the event. That is how I see how I am able to assist in the area of helping you guys navigate through life.

I can stand in front of the tree and try to stop it falling; I can develop an elaborate system of supporting the tree; I can deny that the tree is in danger of falling, or has fallen; I can watch as the tree slowly but surely is destroyed by circumstances surrounding it; or I can do the only real thing that will assist the tree in maintaining it’s beautiful existence in the long term. I can look at me and see how I am contributing to it’s demise. Then I can take the appropriate measures to do all that I can to correct those things that are in error in me. In that way I will be able to be a part of the solution to its survival and growth in the most effective way.

You have shown me that we are all connected and there is not just one person required to save the tree. I had thought that I could push on and in the end save ‘our’ world. No, we need to help each other to reach that place where we can feel sure that we are a part of something bigger and that we are being supported, admired and applauded. The rest is automatic.

You are one of my favourite trees, and I will do everything that I can to assist you and your desires.

So thank you for being the wonderful person that you are as we share in love together.

Your, growing in humility, mother.

IN THE SHADOWS

In the shadows of my life
I see wisdom shining through
Hidden deep inside me
Just like there is in you

This wisdom can remind me
Of all the things that I am
All the things that excite me
All the things that I can

I can decide my future
I can love and appreciate
I can deeply and completely
Enjoy everything that’s great

Like breathing and relaxing
In my comfy bed at night
Like revelling in my playground
The streets paved with life
Like having love surround me
My friends and family
Like everything I ask for
Coming surely as can be

I work and I worry
I wonder and I think
I exercise my free will
And sometimes I forget to blink

Blinking for a moment
Is what brings me clarity
Making everything SO clear
It seems like charity

In the shadow of my life
Lurks the answers that are best
If I listen and be still
I’ll get the blueprint to my quest

“In the Shadows” with Gail Single

Congrats! Nice job.

Congratulations on the discovery of your talent. Working with others in an inspired way towards a harmonious universe.

More work is yet to be done on connecting to emotions in the most thorough way. Finding within yourself the necessary allowance will greatly benefit your soul progress. ‘Little by little’ is the current allowance. ‘To the ends of the earth!’ is the desired position.

Many are developing along these lines and many more will join. You can look forward to easier, and more, opportunities to engage passions and ideas, and experience more acceptance about that which you speak.

Compassion for what is talked about as ‘facades’ is a way to assist those in such a state – as all are to various degrees; and a prayer to God can greatly assist the general demeanor around that area. Prayer for God’s Love

Life is not meant to be such a chore as is being experienced by so many on earth. Life as a human being should be such as a child. Joyful, playful, inquisitive and astonishing. The existence many are experiencing is a more hellish lifestyle. Impure, false and misleading. Unfriendly to most  – even to the person themselves.

Love for your soulmate; the other half of your soul, is a worthwhile pursuit and, in fact, a necessary desire for you to have in the larger picture of ‘all that is’.

God is adoring of all of her children and does not possess any form of sadness, that you may presume is felt, in relation to your activities. She knows that hitting the mark of love is a learning curve and is why we’re here. We’re here to experience with others all levels of love.

When the masks are lifted; everyone shows their cards, all is revealed and we will be astounded by what is uncovered in the grand unveiling of who you really are.

Nothing can be as inspiring as the truth of you, and the mountains you can climb in your endeavours as the greatest of God’s creations.

In love and with much rejoicing for your arrival to the path of least resistance and beyond.

LIFE

Life’s an experience
I’m sure that you know
But how do we continue to grow?

By living a life
So live it right now
Not tomorrow or Wednesday
Right now that is how

How to be free from the concerns that we show?
They really really really must go

They ground us and hold us
From greater pursuits
They even can have us all dressed up in suits!

Suits to suit others
Not ours at all
When will we ever remember the call

The call to our greatness
That’s really all

This time like no-other
Can help you relate
To having a go at the things that can’t date

Like laughing and crying
And smiling too
These are worthwhile things to pursue

Take a look at a child
And then you will know
This is the very thing we should sow

Sow in some fun
Some happiness and love
Mix it all in
And don’t use a glove!

Get down and get dirty
From this day till the next
Then maybe we won’t be so perplexed

“Life” by Gail Single

Ahhh…..Facade. Sadly, we must part.

[00:12:49.06] A.J.: ……we lie to ourselves; we lie to others; we present a lie. Quite frequently you’re feeling, inside, one thing but you say another thing to a person. Frequently, that happens……. Somebody comes up and asks you ‘are you doing this or are you doing that?’ You assess whether you might get attacked; or you might get abused; or you might get whatever saying what you really want to say, and so you don’t say it. Right? It’s presenting a lie to others. The facade justifies lies constantly…..It’s willing to kill for itself. You’re harming people every single moment of the day, even, for the protection of this facade. Because the terror and the pain, the false belief that you can’t cope with both of those things, just causes you to feel that lieing is justified.

Excerpt from “Developing my loving self” seminar

IN THE SHADOWS

In the shadows of my life
I see wisdom shining through
Hidden deep inside me
Just like there is in you

This wisdom can remind me
Of all the things that I am
All the things that excite me
All the things that I can

I can decide my future
I can love and appreciate
I can deeply and completely
Enjoy everything that’s great

Like breathing and relaxing
In my comfy bed at night
Like revelling in my playground
The streets paved with life
Like having love surround me
My friends and family
Like everything I ask for
Coming surely as can be

I work and I worry
I wonder and I think
I exercise my free will
And sometimes I forget to blink

Blinking for a moment
Is what brings me clarity
Making everything So clear
It seems like charity

In the shadow of my life
Lurks the answers that are best
If I listen and be still
I’ll get the blueprint to my quest

‘In the Shadows’ by Gail Single

A goodnight message

After many tries at communicating with you in regards to the ways forward from this place of contention, we are of the opinion that more often than not such things as resentment and haste have resulted in an inability to be more focused on forgiveness and love.

Although you perceive current happenings as almost unbearable, they present to all involved an opportunity to experience the emotions that are locked inside and to offer a calling to come together and assist one another by being way-showers of a sort.

Remaining in a place of complete reliance on God’s ability to create for us a universe so orchestrated that no matter where we turn there is always a clue to how to get back to that place we can call home. Truly at-one with the universe and beyond.

Stay true,  stay sure. You know by now we are here, always by your side and witnessing your advancing soul development and applaud your every discovery along the way.

Your desire to lift the current situation for all on earth as well as those who no longer occupy that space excites and delights us. Much work is yet to be done but will only be done in line with the laws and principles which Jesus has outlined and God has provided for us. Very simple yet profound assistance given to all who choose it, as you have done so.

Take heart in the knowledge that, although your efforts may go unnoticed in the denseness of the human observances it is well recognised from our vantage point and also felt as a huge serge throughout the spheres.

Continue to be an inspired contributor to people,  places and things and when you allow for our response we will surely and gladly drop in and offer our thoughts and prayers to add to yours for an amazing achievement, and sit back and appreciate you all over again as you also show your appreciation for us.

Our mutual love is one of the things that will assure our success as surely as night follows day and the tides will turn.

We say farewell for now and leave you with the knowledge that we are truly one with you and your efforts in all earnestness and have faith that your desires are pure and resounding on a grand scale.

Our love to you. Goodnight.

God give me strength

I am writing today, God, weary of trying to understand how the needs of a grown adult are more important than basic care and emotional nurturing of, not only a small child, but also a child with disabilities can be allowed to flourish in my experience. The adult can make decisions on how they choose to live, think and grow while the child is totally at the mercy of the person who is afforded the privilege of assisting them to be the perfect human being that You intended them to be.

There is no-one so damaged that they cannot reach out to you, God, ask for Your assistance and allow for the inflow of pure love and upliftment that will be shared. Of course, we think that this magically takes away all the pain and errors that life has presented to us. The magic is in the experiencing; the magic is in the unfolding; the magic is in the coming to light of all things possible.

But this is a choice afforded to the older wiser beings, not the young. The young must be nurtured and taught to foster their desires and love; they must be led in a way that enables them to express and experience for themselves the organic delights of this world and make their own magic happen.

The ‘responsible’ adult must therefore have the desire to be that person for them. That person who will make sure that their own emotional state is such that they can support them fully in their desires; loving them in such a way that the only influence that will be exerted will be that of assurance in the fact that they are not required to do anything at this time except be delighted and adored; and trust that God’s Laws are here to wrap them in His mighty fold.

I know the process, God. Give me the strength to come to terms with what is happening; help me to plug the holes in my soul that are contributing to my own experience and that of others around me. Make me brand new again in your love; and know with certainty that this earth world is somehow bringing me to that place. That place of understanding; the place of acknowledgement that we humans are the greatest of your creations and able to rise to a level of awareness far greater than we can possibly imagine in our current thinking.

Abracadabra – let me create – an experience of great upliftment that sees this awareness resonate throughout the human intellects and activate the struggling souls of humanity to a place of serene peace.

I thank you for your assistance once again today as I experience your loving warmth permeating throughout my body; soothing and assuring me that, with my desire firmly set to make manifest a world of complete harmony and love, all is well; and all can be achieved if we hold our faith firm and not allow our focus to be diverted. That’s how the magic happens, with knowing minds and the desire to grow in love.